Discussing death with children

Over at the Health section of Discovery Channel, you will find a rather essential yet moving article with sensible tips about one of the toughest yet rather frequent topic to deal with : discussing death with children.

  • Explanations should be direct, simple, and honest.
    Words such as “dead” should be used and discussed, rather than euphemisms such as “passing on”.
  • It won’t be discussed once for all, talk about it as often as needed.
    As children mature and reach more sophisticated thought processes, they will want to “rework” their experiences and their understanding.
  • Don’t hide your grief.
    Children need to know honestly why Dad is sad or why Mom is crying.

And the last point, as cruel as it may sound, is probably the wisest one :

  • Children need to grieve.
    Shielding them from reality will slow down the needed resolution of a loss, and won’t help them understand this difficult part of life.

Overall this is a really helpful article on a matter that is as difficult as ineluctable. (Via Blogging Baby)

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One Response to “Discussing death with children”

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    Jacken Says:

    I have a seven year old son who is starting to realize that people really can die. Before that age it seems they think of death like an abstraction, something that really doesn’t happen to yourself or loved ones. So a lot of discussions about death, and the sadness of loosing someone. But for me, slowly going into middle age, the same questions pop up, I would guess we both are in the same boat.